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Before investing your time, emotions, and money into a relationship, it is vital to know what drives and motivates the person you intend to build a relationship with. At Bella Mansions, we help couples achieve their dream wedding to begin their sacred fairytale exactly how they envisioned it. We put this list of questions together to help new couples understand each other’s perspectives. Learn what is important to them, what love/relationships mean to them, and the most prominent life experiences that sculpted them into the person you have fallen in love with! 

Personality Questions

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To get to the deep questions, you have to start with some light-hearted fun questions to bring their barriers down and establish some trust. Here are 5 questions to get you started. With these questions, you want to ask questions that will explain what they spend their free time doing and their outlook on life. These questions should be easy for each of you to expand on since they play off of your interests and hobbies!

  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  • Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Relationship Questions

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Alignment on your goals for a relationship and what a relationship means to you is crucial to a healthy relationship. Knowing the love languages and pet peeves of your lover will help you convey your love in a way they will recognize and appreciate. It will also help you avoid potential pitfalls in your relationship. Focus these questions on how they like to be treated, and what they expect to be given and received in a relationship. These questions will help you keep the relationship thriving and the fire for each other burning!

  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  • How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Life Experience Questions

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Now that you have built some rapport and trust with your potential best friend forever, you can start to ask the hard questions about their life experiences. These will help you understand how they became the person they are today and the best and worst memories that have impacted their journey. These are important because you will know what they hate and love in life and touchy subjects to discuss delicately!

  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What is your most terrible memory?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
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With these questions, you should be able to gather a plethora of information about the person you plan to build a long thriving relationship with. You can always ask why after each question to get them to expand on the answers for a better understanding of their point of view. As life continues, people change with new experiences sculpting us each day, so bringing these questions back up every couple of years will help the two of you realign your goals, traits, and expectations. We hope the two of you work out and last forever!

Don’t forget Bella Mansions has an elegant mansion in Sanger, Texas, under construction that will be ready soon. The Sanger Mansion will provide you with the picture-perfect hill country wedding of your dreams! Currently, our work in progress is only open to the public for styled shoots. The mansion is free to use, just sign up to confirm availability!